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ANATOMIE VAN KONFLIK

2011-08-25T21:21:00.000+02:00

Wat doen jy die oggend van 16 September?

Die jaar spoed ten einde en meeste van ons sien uit na die Desember vakansie. Maar is ons voorbereid om die beste te maak van die stresvolle aanloop na die vakansie sodat vakansie weer ‘n slag vakansie in die ware sin van die woord kan wees?

Hoekom wag tot dit te laat is?

Ons leef in ‘n wêreld waar mens daagliks gekonfronteer word deur geweld, slegte nuus en stress wat traumatiese afmetings aanneem.

Leierskap is in krisis – nie net in die wêreld van politiek, kerk, werk en skool nie, maar ook vir die tuisteskepper kom leierskap onder aanslag.

• Hoe hou mens dit uit sonder om self deel van die probleem te word?

• Het jy die beste bedoeling om positiewe verandering in jou direkte omgewing te bewerkstellig – maar maak nie veel vordering nie?

DIE SLEGTE NUUS: Spanning en stress laat ons denke toeklap, versnel die hart se ritme, belemmer die bloedsomloop en ons vuiste bal as ‘n outomatiese regmaak vir veg (...of soms vlug)

DIE GOEIE NUUS: Kom leer meer oor die “Anatomie van Vrede” voor die Feesseisoen en gaan die jaareiende tegemoet met ‘n “Oop kop, hart en hande” gesindheid!

Wie Behoort Dit By Te Woon? Almal in leierskapsposisies en/of diegene betrokke by menslike hulpbron funksies

Hierdie uiters kreatiewe , laat-jou-dink, hoë impak, aksie-leer werksessie sal jou

• toerus met ‘n paar kragtige oopkop eerstehulpmiddels en

• jou inspireer om die beste te maak van jou professionele en persoonlike potensiaal.

• bemagtig om die dinamiek van jou eie verhoudings (werk, huis, andere) positief te beinvloed!

Waar: Kleinkaap, 87 Jim van der Merwe Weg, Clubview, Centurion

Wanneer: 16 September 2011, 8:30 vir 9:00 – 12:00

Koste: R600 (afslag vir groepsbesprekings vir meer as 5 – vooraf registrsie noodsaaklik voor 9 Sept - Verversings, ens ingesluit) Beperkte aantal registrasies – bespreek NOU om teleurstelling te voorkom!

Besprekings: doc@profact.co.za 012 460-5686 / 082-555-7575

AANBIEDER: Dr Elta Boshard is ‘n Leierskap ‘Coach’ en Traumapraktisyn en het meer as 21 jaar ervaring in haar vakgebied.

Hierdie werksessie word gewoonlik in Engels aangebied – dis is ‘n eerste in Afrikaans en hopelik nie die laaste nie– maar hierdie is ‘n spesiale geleentheid – soort van ‘n verjaarsdag....

....want C-i-C@29–virtuele trauma sentrum – is 6 jaar oud!

Soos berig in “TSHWANE BEELD 2005”
Dr. Elta Boshard, bekende Pretoriase traumapraktisyn, sê dis ’n slegte en bitter pil om te sluk wanneer allerlei gevare en verlies jou om elke hoek by die huis, werk, straat of motor inwag.

Boshard het Saterdag, 16 September 2006, geskiedenis gemaak in Pretoria toe die eerste virtuele traumasentrum, wat bekend staan as C-i-C@29 in Momumentpark bekend gestel is.

Dié sentrum is ’n gemeenskapsontwikkelingsprojek van Dr. Elta’s Enablers en word deur vrywilligers, wat deur Boshard self opgelei word, beman. (Tshwane-Beeld Woensdag 12 Oktober 2005)

Hierdie werkswinkel is daarop gemik om fondse te genereer vir hierdie sentrum -wat sonder winsmotief bedryf word.

International Association of Coaching Blog: How to Stop Bumbling Your Way Through the Business of Coaching

2011-05-05T22:54:00.000+02:00

International Association of Coaching Blog: How to Stop Bumbling Your Way Through the Business of Coaching

Give yourself the gift of coaching - REPOST & UPDATE-

2011-03-24T22:46:00.000+02:00

By Elta, March 2, 2010 4:30 pm --Give yourself the gift of coaching

‘Supervision with a Difference’

The PROFACT Network is offering a unique opportunity to coaches, especially those living in or near Pretoria. You will also be introduced to ReciproCoach - with exposure to coach and be coached internationally!

Personal and professional development for coaches

ReciproCoach is an international community of coaches who engage in reciprocal coaching, mentoring and supervision for their own personal and professional development.

By giving coaching and mentoring, ReciproCoaches receive coaching and mentoring, and by participating in supervision, ReciproCoaches give and receive through collaborative learning.

Therefore, as a ReciproCoach, you pay for your coaching, mentoring and supervision by giving it to another coach. As a result, because you're only paying us to orchestrate the reciprocal process, not for the coaching/mentoring/supervision itself, 8 sessions can cost much less than you'd normally pay for one session!

Some people recognize this kind of reciprocal arrangement as bartering, exchange, swaps or contra, a means of bypassing the exchange of money. However, the aim of ReciproCoach is to support coaches' personal development (coaching), skills development (mentoring) and professional development (supervision).

What you may recognize as bartering/exchange/swaps/contra is in fact a highly powerful tool for facilitating collaborative learning for coaches across the globe! Of course, the bonus of this kind of learning is that it also makes coaching, mentoring and supervision for coaches financially accessible.
In so doing, ReciproCoach makes regular and ongoing coaching, mentoring and supervision more accessible for coaches and with that advances the integrity, competency and professionalism of the coaching industry.

Benefits to you:

• Demonstrate integrity (coaching), competency (mentoring) and professionlism (supervision)
• Be part of one of the most active coaching communities in the world

• Be at your edge personally and professionally

• Remove the isolation normally attached to working for yourself

• All the known benefits of coaching, mentoring and supervision

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Many coaches are putting a lot of training into coaching skills, and then get discouraged by the business side of running a coaching practice. Not mastering these principles coaches are sometimes unsure how to freely grow both their confidence and their practice.

Besides our coaches’ need to talk about our experiences in our practices, supervision could also afford us an opportunity to reflect upon topics often asked, such as these:

• What can I do to get clients? Who would I call? What would I say? How can I get clients without being pushy?

• Won’t it be weird or uncomfortable coaching my friends and colleagues?

• What if I get stuck during a session?

• How can I be credible when I don’t even have a certification yet?

• Can I really make a living from coaching?

Supervision is a commitment to our own wellbeing, as well as our personal and professional development as a coach, and has the added benefit of protecting our clients, and ourselves, for example from loneliness and potential burnout

Leading these get-togethers, Elta Boshard will start with an introductory session to enable you to find out more about what “Coaching Supervision” is, could be… and is not. You’ll get to know Elta and experience how she works. Elta also runs various monthly supervision groups for those who are interested in making an on-going commitment to growth in terms of professional, spiritual, physical, intellectual and all other intelligences.

Elta invites other coaches and mentors to come on board – to make use of the opportunities for networking with your unique colleagues.

Venue: 29 Lion Road, STERREWAG, MONUMENT PARK.

Your investment in your own growth and development: R180 per Session (Min of 5 persons & Max 8 persons per group)

Numbers will be kept small, so please call Elta: 082 555 7575 for more detail.

Dr Elta Boshard is a certified member (Organizational) of the International TA Association, a member of the International Association of Coaching and has 30 years experience in the Human Service Provider-industry, 20 of these as an Executive Mentor (MHRP--SABPP) and Solution Focused Coach. She has many years of experience of Supervisor in various settings with a variety of modalities. She coaches individuals and groups and supervises other coaches, social workers and trauma counsellors from various NGO’s and other organisations. Her special interest and advanced research in supervision for, and coaching of, survivors of Compassion Fatigue, informed her dissertation (PhD in 2003). Elta is a member of COMENSA.

Is the Pursuit of Happiness Making Us Miserable? - Petrea King

2011-02-24T15:50:00.000+02:00

Arizona Reporter » The Miracle Question

2010-12-05T08:12:00.000+02:00

The Miracle Question

Being coached through a major transition this article resonates! Whilst preparing for tomorrow's session I "stumbled" upon this article - I just have to share it:

"Setting goals and creating change is not easy. Yes, it is fairly simple to write the next day's goals on a "to do" list and sometimes accomplish the majority of them. But, when it comes to achieving a goal that can make a huge difference in our lives, it's often a challenge. I'm speaking of goals like changing a job or pursuing your passion. Your goal could also be dealing with a physical abuse issue, a bullying problem or letting go of a damaging relationship or healing a present one. The list goes on.

Achieve Breakthrough Results with 3 Questions

The reason that these goals are so challenging is that we, by our nature, are over-analytical. Plus, we often create the illusion that we are actually accomplishing something when we are really just procrastinating by worrying, fretting and over-thinking our goal. Then there is fear. "
For the full article: Arizona Reporter » The Miracle Question

BEST Andrea Bocelli Song EVER! - (HQ Sound) - The Lord's Prayer (better ...

2010-12-04T12:09:00.000+02:00

PARTNERSHIPS: Networking With Professionals-In-Action

2010-11-17T16:10:00.000+02:00

ACT -

As I am participating in a group discussion** on LinkedIn it reminded about my love for language... and more so about the playful, very creative, even ingenious use of Acronyms! This then prompted me to copy the following from my Webpage (and did I enjoy playing around a bit between the two sites! )

**The discussion's heading? Strong interest in ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) application to coaching. Does anyone share my passion and know about training in ACT related coaching?

This whole exercise has energised and inspired me to remake this blog and let it be known. About Acceptance and Commitment therapy, or ACT: It's is a cognitive-behavioral model of psychotherapy that you can learn about on Wikipedia and a host of other places.
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Reframing Cultural and Professional Discourses

[From: Enabling Human Service Providers to Manage Compassion Fatigue through Pastoral Practices – a Transdisciplinary Study. Boshard, E (2003) PhD- unpublished dissertation]
A central theme that emerged from the reflecting team re-Treats was that of acceptance as a way of reconciliation.

Reflection-in-action is enhanced by focusing on the knowing-in-action. For the reflecting team members who came as clients it was exciting to share in the activities of the networkers’ own constant training and development. Various topics would be scheduled for future sessions according to the need expressed by the members. In the spirit of enquiry participants would then research a topic and arrive at the meeting with positive ideas. We call this activity ACT, linking it to our Network’s name. PROFACT is short for Professionals-in-Action. The spirit of competition against the system became the vehicle that turned fruitless competition into learning experiences. For instance one team truly bought into the concept of acceptance, commitment and take action. Team members spontaneously produced coasters for their coffee mugs with the company’s emblem on the one side and the word ‘ACT’ on the other. When misunderstandings would loom, or a person experienced a need to be heard, it was accepted that (s)he may raise the coaster. These events, dubbed creative misunderstandings, enhanced group-learning.

In our creative workshops we often playfully interact with acronyms. Participants agreed that there are many important issues that could be identified and be recalled in the heat of the game by focusing on ACT. Waving the ACT coaster often serves to defuse what could become a volatile situation. The following condensed extract describes one of the PROFACT’s brainstorming maps, recorded on flip charts during a re-Treat.

We all embraced ACT as a way of being, in our work and in other relationships. The following description of ACT is also copied from the worksheet presented at that re-Treat. This is how it was recorded:

A: I can ‘Analyze, Acknowledge and Accept’, my own limitations and strengths, as I do those of my clients – Affect is my emotional companion, just as much part of my whole self as the leaves are part of a tree.
C: Commitment is to turn constraints into Choice, embracing the opportunities around the bend. Choice is my Cognitive part and helps determine whether I live as victim or survivor. It is part of my whole self, like the branches of a tree.
T: The ‘problem’ is not a threat – even the‘X’ is not a threat. By discovering what is most important to my True self, the threat loses its power. My untested perceptions may be seen as a threat. However as I tract my progress I am in Tune with my I am my own T with my choices.
Therefore ACT will guide my behavioural preferences, and I shall be free indeed! [This worksheet was developed from the work done by Fox, (2002); Hayes, Barnes-Holmes, and Roche (2001). It was redesigned by one of the workgroups who attended the retreat for the Networkers in 2002. These re-Treat weekends signalled turning points in our work and inspired me to embark on research and dissertation-writing.] COPIED AND ADAPTED, today 17 NOV 2010, FROM: http://profact.co.za/consultation/

2011 - SOL-SA1 - THE STORY UNFOLDS

2010-07-10T16:56:00.000+02:00

SOL-SA1 --- FROM THE BEGINNING

Where did it all start?

It was way back in 2003 when I was working on my doctorate when a group of international SF-therapists (- whom I 'met' on the SFT-List Serve) collaborated in a Virtual Reflecting Team - a WOW-experience like no other in almost all my life!

And so I became exposed to a community of extraordinary people – no chips on shoulders there, no turf wars --- just a community of generous and open people who shared and collaborated without holding back!

I saw enormous changes in my clients, and captured some of the work in the dissertation. I still see the “Magic of Miracles” and still have the same burning desire to continue to share and care the richness of SF practices with others.

In 2008 Stanus Cloete attended the Leader as Coach-event, presented by my host, Dr Frank N Thomas…. and he was hooked right then

Afterwards Stanus and I worked very hard for months! He followed that up by obtaining his Sol-PRO status and eventually I could pass the baton for the next stretch of the race to him when it was clear that he’s prepared, convinced and committed!

Now we are inviting you to join, help prepare for, and celebrate SOL-SA 1. What would you like to know that would convince you to join us??? We need you!

WE HAVE A BATON OR MORE TO PASS ON..... COME JOIN IN

I'm OK- You're OK -- From Dr Elta's Enablers NING

2010-06-02T16:06:00.000+02:00

WE have a dream: to create a virtual space for the creation of a Northern TA Tribe....

So indeed -what is TA??

KAREN PRATT - January 24, 2010 at 8:10am
Transactional Analysis is a simple yet profound way of understanding how and why people think, feel and behave as they do. Developed by Eric Berne in the 1950's, it makes accessible theories of human development, personality and communication. It has concepts that can be learned and applied as tools for personal and professional growth and change. The underlying philosophy is one of mutual self-respect and caring and a belief in peoples' ability to be responsible, think for themselves and choose to change. What more wonderful model could we hope for to support the transformation and development of all our communities?

TA has four fields of application:

Psychotherapy - The therapist uses a contract for specific changes desired by the client and involves the Adult ego state of the client and clinician to sort out patterns of behaviour, feelings and thoughts that prevent the development of full human potential.

Counselling - Counsellors who use TA work directly on "here and now" problem solving with their clients

Psychotherapy and Counselling are the therapeutic, clinical uses of TA. Practitioners will have another qualification that enables them to practice professionally, and use TA to enrich their practice.

Organisations - TA is a powerful tool in the hands of organisational development specialists. It enables people in organisations to understand their dysfunctional patterns of behaviour and change to a functional organisation.

Education - TA gives insight to people involved in learning in all its forms, as to how people learn best, how best to foster self esteem in learners, to be in charge in a healthy, life giving way, boosting student morale, equipping parents and educators with skills for effective discipline.

The organisational and educational fields form the strand of TA known as Developmental Transactional Analysis. As developmental TA-ers we ask: what goes well? what can be even better? We help people to focus on what they want, instead of what they don't want any more.

People do TA for various reasons - for some it’s a once-off introductory TA 101 weekend - for others they choose to become qualified.

The first level of qualification is a Certified Transactional Analyst (CTA) and this will be in one of the four fields I described above. This is a challenging and rigorous process requiring 2000 hours of study, use of TA, supervision and personal work. There is a written thesis on an in-the-field project, and when that is passed, an oral exam in front of an international board. it is a life changing experience! After this the CTA can choose to be accredited as a TA 101 Instructor and run 101 workshops.

The next level is a Provisional Teaching and Supervising Transactional Analyst (PTSTA) This enables the practitioner to train TA to others to qualification level.

The final level is a Teaching and Supervising Transactional Analyst (TSTA) - this is another rigorous oral board exam that is undertaken after 5 to 7 years of being a PTSTA with regular supervision by a TSTA.

I have run TA 101 workshops throughout 2009 and I am starting an ongoing training group in Feb 2010. This will be in Cape Town. I have also been asked to run such a group in Ireland and start with a 101 there in May. How about Pretoria - I would love to have a third group there!! I believe my experience with different groups in different cultures and countries will be a rich experience both for me and the groups I work with.

Join me on this journey -you will be changed in many ways!

SF COACHING FOR POSTTRAUMATIC GROWTH

2010-06-02T15:40:00.000+02:00

Welcome!
I am starting this firstly for my coaching students, and secondly, other coaches and stakeholders who are interested in Networking with us as we go through the course, Coaching for Traumatic Stress and Growth.

The purpose is to share our questions and our stories, to explore the effects of traumatic stress on our own lives and relationships, our communities; and to become equipped to make a positive difference.

My dream: as we labour in our various professions, that we will collaborate, integrate, and especially create an awareness of the importance of the care-for-the-caregiver (e.g the "body"-work) in order to expand and share our ideas concerning resilience, values and ethics.

It's a small beginning - one that I hope will grow with your contributions.

Looking forward that you will willingly share your wisdom, tell some of your stories and raise your concerns, by JOYfully asking the questions that will spark our conversations.

Elta

THE SEASON OF JOY - entering with a purple carpet covering the streets

2009-10-11T14:13:00.000+02:00

LAST YEAR I wrote:

Falling for the same old lie (wrapped in a different colour and a more alluring shiny wrapper) left me in a heap — trampled after a personality-profile-type-blood-red double-decker-bus colission...
Yes, I read Byron Katie’s “A Thousand Names for Joy”. And yes, I read Nancy Klein’s TIME TO THINK, and many more.... I spend lots of time with Father (and two colleagues, thanks Debbie and Lori who each coached me for one session). I also journaled with my 'personal coach'. Her name is Annie, and she coaches from inside the front and back covers of "Are you Connected?", the third book on my bedside table.

Learning what I could from all these including “The Veiled Value of Oopses” (previous post) and tapping into my own Resilience made bouncing back a lot easier and quicker! However, the cumulative effect of this kind of crash on my body can no longer be entertained! The cost (strain) on my intelligent HEART is just too high!
PROMISE TO SELF
I'll stay focused! No more Self-deception, won't be going into the Box! It is now daily PRACTICE of PRESENCE and PURPOSE - Living with Father in Harmony with the Way Things Are.... and a Heart at Peace, Being at Choice... and all this made possible by outrageous Grace! What JOY!!!
Watch me - keep me accountable...
Or better yet, join me on the next course- DETAIL HERE:

COACHING FOR POST TRAMATIC GROWTH

Solutions-Focused Pastoral (=caring) Practices (SFPP) for Coaches

Solutions-Focused Practices for Coaches is an intensive, eight-step, small group (maximum 10 persons) program presented in TWO modules of 2-days, plus in-between activities, plus a follow-up day.

On this EXPERIETIAL ACCELRERATED LEARNING program you will
• Practice the not-knowing posture and skill of listening as a way of Being
• Acquire the skills to manage a not-knowing posture and maintain coaching curiosity (group-work)
• Discover creative ways to reach positive goals, even for people with “unacceptable behaviour”
• Receive new tools to elicit preferred futures or desired outcomes
• Discover ways to flourish as leader by being relationally responsible

IN THE FOLLOW-UP TRAINING you will further

• Learn how to quickly build positive rapport for change in a wide range of community and work settings, using the unique Solutions Tools
• Discover where to concentrate your efforts to be most effective by using the six SIMPLE principles
• Work on your own issues in the group and with the presenter-coach as well as with the support of Teleconferences
• Practise a methodology with wide applicability to individuals, teams and whole organisations, in all kinds of contexts
• Build on your coaching skills and tackle a real workplace project using the SFPP approach
• Find out how the distinctive Solutions-Focused Pastoral Practices approach compare with e.g.Trauma Incident Reduction, Eye Movement Integration (NLP), Appreciative Inquiry, Positive Psychology and other methods
• Complete your project: suitable for confidence and capacity building, should you so wish.

This YEAR I write: We've come a long way, haven't we?
And yes we'll do the course again.

I CAST 2 ACT

2006-08-31T00:14:00.002+02:00

Executive Team Development Process is about the power of words, and words that will enable, will grow and give reason to celebrate every small step of achievement towards reaching that elusive " perfect 10" of your dreams.

“Words are skins; the exchange of words is symbolically the touching of skins.” -Howard F. Stein in "Listening Deeply: An Approach to Understanding and Consulting in Organizational Culture" (1994) Words fascinate me... mostly because words are so rich in emotional and cultural content!

"Words were originally magic", Steve de Shazer once said. The idea of “I CAST, 2 ACT” is actually an ellipsis for a number of processes of constructive thinking in interpersonal relationships: Here’s how we work through the 4 stages:

I The question is: What determines Identity? Identity is a construct that can best be seen as an ongoing work-in-progress. The ‘I’ that you meet here is merely that part of me that I choose to disclose. "I AM"= I am who I believe I am now, and what I am becoming…. AND so much more than what can be captured in one sentence. I am sharing a part of my life, and hope to be sharing –gradually– most of my life’s work with you.
I am a mysterious work-of-art, even unto myself.....for just as soon I think I know myself then I find that -in a sense- a new part of who or what I am becoming, is emerging.
I am an entrepreneur, caregiver, corporate-team development coach and artist. I started my career path as a nurse, I then became a teacher. Further studies took me into Human Resources but eventually I ventured out into consulting and became the principal consultant-cum-coach in a not for profit Network. For the past thirty-odd years I discovered and developed interventions aimed at enabling others at "making our tomorrows better, starting today".
I once thought of myself as a woman... now I see myself somewhat differently. I see my womanhood as a part of a bigger picture for I am also human, part of the energy that combines people into communities. I am also a wife, mother and grandmother, and maybe this is what I am most grateful for. However, mostly I am a Caregiver: and in giving care I receive care. What are your thoughts on identity?

CAST The word cast refers to a verb, and it indicates an act of throwing (forcefully); pouring (into a mould); to assign a role in a play or performance.
When I cast my ideas or thoughts, into our presence do I also invite you to reflect upon your own experiences? The word cast can also refer to a noun. 1: it can be a protective shell to hold a broken bone in place until it has healed. 2: it can be the 'players'/actors in, for instance, a drama or a comedy...

When I cast my vote and TRUST wins – is it because it was my choice WHEN and WHO to trust! What about you?

2 Two, or to...

Since two is more than one this number could be just that - or it could be 'text' for "intention" - in other words it could also indicate the word 'to'. When I write and you read all that I wrote here we are for this moment more than one... You experience, interpret, think and maybe decide to comment… or not... are our skins symbolically touching?

And so it becomes an opportunity to act. If you leave without leaving a comment, it stays a one-way act…. but thanks all the same for dropping in... sort of.

ACT Once again the word contains meaning, emotion and/or grammar: it can be a noun, a verb... or even an acronym. Like in: Acceptance/Attitude} Commitment/Choice} Tracking} Progress. When you figure this one out let me know.

What do YOU think? I would really like to hear your thoughts, so please feel free to share your comments here.

This is Elta - at the moment

2006-08-19T00:56:00.001+02:00

My name is Elta, short for Elartha ---
from Elizabeth + Martha. Now let's take these names and see where it takes me:
"Elizabeth" - so I became a 'queen' as God's "Child of Joy".
"Martha"- known for serving... and sometimes being a bit of a complainer (?)

Hence, Elta, the joyful servant is also a human being who at times experience the pain and ecstacy of travelling the journey... of giving expecting no reward, and yet being blessed in many ways beyond comprehension.

I am the evidence of my journey thus far... yet I am still becoming more of what my Master intended for me at the beginning when I was in being woven by Him... in the secret place of my mother's womb.

"Tomorrow" I may have to introduce myself differently - the adventure I call becoming more of me... and in all this I am reminded that in upholding the ideal relationship of the "I-Thou" versus the "I-It" (Buber) we can grow together.
Aloha!